A Letter to My Son

IMG_6600Dear Stone,

You entered our life on March 5th at 4:50am during the middle of a blizzard here in Nashville. Your arrival was unexpected (16 days early) yet gratefully welcomed. Your Mom and I are super in love and so proud to be your parents. You continue to take our breath away, and you have changed our lens about life and family forever. We love you so much!

As you grow up, life is going to beat you up and kick you when you are down. It owes you nothing. Remember that always. All I ask is that you continue to get back up. Again. Again. Again. And again. Never quit.

Not only do I not want you to quit, but I want you to:

Fight for what is right.

Trust your gut.

Aim for consistency.

Pick your battles.

Make smart choices everyday.

Take the high road.

Go the extra mile.

Be kind.

Be humble.

Do what is right.

Eat your greens.

Respect your elders.

Read.

Don’t get comfortable.

Dream.

Don’t let others determine your self-worth.

Do what you love.

Don’t chase money.

Stay away from debt.

Find a wife you adore and who will make you a better person.

Exercise.

Get a dog.

Don’t be afraid to hire people smarter than you.

Maximize your strengths.

Remember that life rewards the dogged.

Know that grit always beats IQ.

Always be curious.

You have one fun, crazy, exciting, challenging, and deeply rewarding journey ahead of you. Welcome to the world! We can’t wait to show you around.

Love,

Your Dad

Where No Progress is Made

My desk. I hate it. More specifically, I hate my office. Don’t get me wrong, I love everything my office represents. The building contains my team. My office is nicely decorated. I have lovely artwork, a comfortable chair, a nice big monitor, and plenty more. I still hate it.

Why?

I never figured it out until this morning. When I started my company back in 2006, I lived in coffee shops and I got a lot of crap done. I mean… a lot. I was a beast. However, over the last few years as I have increasingly become more of a manager (sitting at a desk), my productivity has stalled and the business seems like it is stagnant.

I’m not creating.

I’m not dreaming.

I’m not feeling like myself.

Therefore, I decided to pick up my bags and leave today. I’m writing this post at a coffee shop right and it feels good – really good. I’m actually getting crap done rather than just pushing paper.

Going for the Moon

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On May 25, 1961, President John F. Kennedy announced is has ambitious goal of putting man on the moon before the decade concluded. It was bold, and it was ambitious. And, he did it.

I feel like for the last 2 years, I have been drifting without a moon goal in relation to my career. Don’t get me wrong, we are doing some really great things at Ethos3, but I feel like I am personally stagnant. I need to dream bigger and bolder. I want to do something great – I just don’t know what it is yet.

Superhuman by Habit by Tynan (Book Summary)

superhuman_by_habitQuick Summary

Tynan’s Superhuman by Habit: A Guide to Becoming the Best Possible Version of Yourself, One Tiny Habit at a Time was an enjoyable read. It started slow but ultimately offered a number of great tips by the end.

Key Insights

  • Each new habit strains our willpower, which means that there is a limited number of new habits that we can have at any given time.
  • Be scared to not execute a habit.
  • Missing two days of a habit is habit suicide.
  • Remember that the power of a habit isn’t actually in the individual execution, but in the consistency.
  • Two types of people: adders and subtractors.
  • You’ll get the greatest compliance by maximizing frequency and minimizing intensity.
  • 3 main habit killers: drugs, seeking of stimulation, and negative friends

Practical Application

  • Track my adherence to process, not my results.
  • Acknowledge that I am an “adder”
  • Create healthy triggers
  • The optimal sleep temperature is 65 degrees; need to experiment with this set-up
  • Purchase and read Willpower Instinct
  • I need to seek out more Masterpieces
  • Embrace the idea of Twice, then Quit
  • Try rating my days

Meaningful Quotes

“The glorious benefit of a habit is that it converts something that requires a lot of willpower and focus into something that becomes automatic and often outside of our conscious thought.”

“Replacing just a few key negative habits with a few positive habits can easily be the difference between being mostly unhappy and being happy almost all of the time.” 

Life Changes Quick by Johnny FD (Book Summary)

life_changes_quick_johnny_fdQuick Summary

Johnny FD’s Life Changes Quick: 7 Steps to Get Everything You’ve Ever Wanted is a great read of you are looking for a personal story to inspire you. It contains a few golden nuggets from someone who took risks.

Key Insights

  • The book focuses on 7 Steps to Success:
    • 1. De-stress Your Life
    • 2. Get Healthy, Get In Shape
    • 3. Set Specific Goals
    • 4. Become Your Own Boss
    • 5. Stay Motivated, Motivate Others
    • 6. Don’t Look For Love, Welcome It
    • 7. Enjoy Life, Don’t Sabotage Your Success

Practical Application

  • Check out the BulletProof diet

Meaningful Quotes

“The things that get measured are the things that get done.” – Michael LeBoeuf

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne Williamson

“Once in a while it really hits people that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.” – Alan Keightley

“Don’t believe me, just watch.” – Tyga

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. ” – Henry David Thoreau

“Sex is like air, it’s not a big deal unless you’re not getting any.”

“The rich get richer, the poor get poorer. Success breeds success, and desperation reeks of desperation.”

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball